Intelligent Intimacy
(Stop performing. Start connecting.)
Build the skills that turn intimacy into true intelligence,
in boardrooms and bedrooms alike.
Upcoming Events
Intelligent Intimacy with Maria
Intelligent Intimacy Mixed Circle
Coming Soon
Intelligent Intimacy: Meet Maria (Online)
Tuesday, September 16th, 18:30 CET, live on Zoom (recording available after)
Online Workshop: Introduction to Intelligent Intimacy
60-minute talk + 30-minute Q&A
Recording available afterward
Who it's for
Men who want to deepen their presence and clarity in intimacy, women interested in understanding this work, and anyone curious about exploring intimacy as a field of intelligence rather than performance.
What you'll explore
- The difference between presence and performance in intimacy
- Consent as clarity: why clear agreements create freedom
- How to lead yourself first before leading another in intimacy
- What makes a container safe and alive instead of flat or performative
Brasov - 21 September Mixed Circle
Conscious Relating: Beyond Love, Into Truth | Intelligent Intimacy Mixed Circle
17:00 to 20:00
Love is not enough. Real relationships are built on taking care of each other's best interest-partners, colleagues, children, even your own body.
This curated event is an immersive journey into intimacy, trust, and boundaries. Expect blindfolded exploration, movement, whispers, secrets, touch, and radical honesty-all held in a safe, guided space.
- Discover your love language in practice
- Explore boundaries & authentic consent
- Dance, rest, and connect beyond masks
- Step into the art of conscious relating
Consent at every step. Transformation guaranteed.
Mentorship for Men
What You'll Experience
Explore your inner world and patterns without judgment and without pressure.
Rebuild nervous system strength so your presence lands as safety and heat.
Bring truth into intimacy, whether you remain in your relationship, leave, or begin again.
"Many men come to me not because their marriage is failing, but because they know their inner world is underdeveloped. They want a place to explore eros, intimacy, and masculine confidence without shame."
This work is not therapy, and it is not an affair. It is a confidential partnership-a space where you can practice presence, rediscover desire, and return to your relationship (or the next stage of your life) with clarity, strength, and integrity.
Book Your Discovery Call
A 20-minute conversation to explore what brings you here and determine if we're the right fit for your journey.
What clients say
"Thank you for the feelings! Moments of: Total safety, Sensory immersion, Timelessness, Receiving pure and complete affection, Desire, Delight, Ecstasy, Fear, Giving without expectation; touch, sensation, affection, arousal, Belief in goodness, Expecting something good but not knowing or having to know what, Expecting nothing, Knowing I am loved, Loving without a goal, Receiving without expectation; touch, sensation, affection, arousal, Feeling sexy, feeling alive, Feeling alive, without the sexy, Asking with openness, Getting more than I could imagine when I asked, Getting less than I asked for, being completely and utterly happy with that."
James, UK
"Tantra sessions seem to be a place of special security where intimacy creates a laboratory for emotions. It is a "laboratory" because the experiences are encapsulated in a therapeutic box with clear boundaries. The experience with Maria has been completely different from any others because it has created such intense feelings of attachment and connection."
Henrik, Norway
"I think that the attachment created with Maria reflects the attachment of an infant to a mother, but it is exclusively pleasurable and lacks the subsequent trauma associated with my life growing up with my mother. So, the experience with Maria has been in a way a dreamy expression of "what I always yearned for" as I separated from infancy and later grew up with an unhappy mother."
Diego, Spain
"I am not simultaneously or afterwards consumed with feelings or fantasies of lust. So, the tantra experience with Maria creates sexual attraction as some sort of evolution of deeper feelings of attachment, connection, and affection. When I think of Maria in her absence, I first visualize gazing into each other's eyes, then if I create a fantasy scene in my brain (yearning) it is all about the gentle physical interactions which in our meetings have only gradually led to arousal and sexuality."
Luca, Italy
"I don't jump directly into fantasy recreation of the sexual parts of our sessions, I dwell on the rest and it makes me calm and happy."
Andrei, Romania
"Feedback after session: I became utterly stricken with fear during the night, afraid that my feelings would become obsession and drive me crazy and cause me to lose control of my actions… With the light of day I am still afraid but also feel comfortable that I probably can handle what comes emotionally and learn and grow positively."
Luca, Italy
"Time will tell, I believe you are very very wise and completely benevolent. If I didn't believe that I would freak out. But happy to be feeling these things honestly and writing it down to keep myself transparent to the two of us."
Andrei, Romania
"So much gratitude! Thank you! Much love. Your eager student."
Matthias, Germany
Frequently Asked Questions
About Maria
Maria Hoier is the founder of Intelligent Intimacy, a singer and writer, and a pioneer in integrating psychology, somatic practice, and archetypal frameworks into modern relational development. With a background in Eastern medicine, psychology, and adult human development, she has spent over two decades weaving together science, myth, and lived experience to guide individuals and groups into deeper intimacy, integrity, and embodied connection. Trauma-informed, academically grounded, and intuitively led, Maria merges intellectual depth with emotional accessibility. She creates spaces where vulnerability, erotic intelligence, and conscious power can coexist, bringing a rare capacity to hold both the psychological and the spiritual dimensions of intimacy. Her mission is to restore intimacy as a field of intelligence-one that can transform relationships, leadership, and the systems we live in.
Why this work
Maria's containers combine honest self-inquiry, clean boundaries, and simple embodied practices. Men and women learn skills they can apply in boardrooms and bedrooms alike: nervous-system steadiness, direct communication, and sovereign desire. The tone is intelligent, warm, and safe.
